I’m going to start this series off with a question that has been heavy on my heart. If I didn’t start here, this series would be nothing more than informative and could possibly lead many of you in the wrong direction for your family. This post is directed more towards mom’s, but the rest of this series will be for everyone. Let me also say, that this is in no means meant to bring guilt to any of you mommies out there who work from home or out of the home. I DO realize that many of you have to work at home or away, I’m a working (at home) mom myself. This post is for all of us to consider, it’s the logical place to start.
Do you HAVE to work at all?
Speaking from personal experience and from the experience I have had praying and meeting with friends going through this very same battle right now, I have to pose this question. The fact is that many of us simply want to be mom, nothing more nothing less. However the current financial state of our household, the country, and the world for that matter is seeming to pull us in a different direction. With that said, a lot of that is a mental and spiritual battle we’re fighting, it’s one that’s called WORRY.
I know it’s got to be one of the most searched phrases on the internet “work from home jobs” because as a woman we are so very torn when it comes to our babies at home and the feeling that we should be helping to contribute financially in one way or another. In my personal experience, it was worry. Plain and simple – I didn’t trust or have enough faith that regardless of what I did we’d be ok. So instead I worked a bazillion random jobs from house cleaning to Craiglist kid’s toy flipping. I’ll explain in another post.
So before I jump into the ‘how to’s’ of working from home, I really want you to think hard and ask yourself. Do I have to work from home, or at all. Now if you don’t have to, but want to…that’s completely a personal/family decision, one that I’m not going to question or discuss. I’m not trying to change anyone’s mind or convince them that one way is better than another. My number one objective with this post is simply to ask you to sit down and really consider why you want to work and if you really need to.
If you don’t want to, but think you need to I’d suggest you sit down with a trusted friend, family member or mentor and work out the nitty-gritty of your budget and see if you really HAVE to.
Looking back at the past 10 years of my life, there are times when I wished I would have asked myself this question. All the time and energy I invested in the various jobs I did, was it worth it? Did I have to work? I would have worked less, stressed less, and played more. I would have treasured the moments I had with my babies, instead of nursing at the computer to get just one more job done. I would have stayed home on a Saturday evening instead of running all around the Bay Area selling jewelry that I didn’t love to women who couldn’t afford it and didn’t need it but came to party because they couldn’t say no to a friend. Oh I have so many stories to share with you!
Looking back, I wish I would have asked myself this very same question. If I knew then what I know now, I would have said “No I don’t have to work.” I would have played at the park a lot more with that cute little girl pictured above, now 9 years old!